Do what you can

How do people react to a diagnosis of a ‘life-shortening’ condition? One thing has recently happened with me. I stopped doing some things I could still do. This included washing up, chopping some vegetables and preparing some food. I think I stopped doing these things because there were others I certainly could not do (lifting heavy pans, carrying plates of food, sweeping for example). I stopped the lot.

The message to the person left to pick up what I used to do, mainly my wife, is that I am seeing her as the person to do everything. You can imagine how she feels about that.

Of course it’s a judgment call. Losing balance and hitting your head on a kitchen floor is not helpful for anyone.

The challenge is that the situation is new for everyone and evolving. I have said to myself I will do what I can.

Part of it is also surrendering when that makes sense. This weekend, to rest between walking, I used my wheelchair for the first time. See the photo.

  

Andrew Knowlman

I am a 50-year old father of two children, married to Jane. I live in Hertfordshire, UK. I was diagnosed with Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis in April 2015.

3 thoughts to “Do what you can”

  1. Hi Andrew
    This might be a stupid comment but … Its a good photo … In so many ways … and I hope you all enjoyed the British Masters.
    Gary

  2. Good to see your smile! I hope you can keep up your wonderful positive spirit and to share your thoughtful insights on the human condition.
    I guess the “disabled viewing area” is not a place to view the disabled? Brits have a funny way with words.

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