How do people react to a diagnosis of a ‘life-shortening’ condition? One thing has recently happened with me. I stopped doing some things I could still do. This included washing up, chopping some vegetables and preparing some food. I think I stopped doing these things because there were others I certainly could not do (lifting heavy pans, carrying plates of food, sweeping for example). I stopped the lot.
The message to the person left to pick up what I used to do, mainly my wife, is that I am seeing her as the person to do everything. You can imagine how she feels about that.
Of course it’s a judgment call. Losing balance and hitting your head on a kitchen floor is not helpful for anyone.
The challenge is that the situation is new for everyone and evolving. I have said to myself I will do what I can.
Part of it is also surrendering when that makes sense. This weekend, to rest between walking, I used my wheelchair for the first time. See the photo.